Dear Annie: Supporting My Addicted Friend Is Taking a Toll on Me

A friend, whose father recently passed away, is struggling with drug addiction, which has strained her long-term friendship with a man who is a recovering alcoholic. They met over 20 years ago at her father's house and have maintained a close relationship since. However, her drug use is a trigger for him, making it difficult for him to support her during her time of loss. After the funeral service, she invited him for a drink, but he declined, recognizing that it would jeopardize his eight-year recovery.

Following this, she posted on social media, expressing feelings of abandonment by her friends, which he found hurtful but did not respond to immediately. He is aware of her addiction and wants to support her but understands that he must maintain his own sobriety. He believes that he can offer her love and concern from a safe distance, emphasizing that he will be there for her when she is ready to seek help.